It’s the thumb.  Always the thumb.  Since my son Nick was able to get out of the kiddie carrier backpack and hike beside me, we would always find ourselves, at some point in the hike, with his tiny had wrapped around my thumb.  

I sometimes wonder how many miles we have walked like that, hand in thumb.  On the Superior Hiking Trail, in the Tetons, Yellowstone, in every single state park in Minnesota - that thumb of mine has a lot of miles on it.  And most nights, while laying in the tent, undoubtedly at some point in the night the some will grasped as well.  It must be comforting to him.  

It sure is for me.

Nick turns 14 years old Oct. 19.  And although it doesn’t happen quite as often, I am happy to report that my thumb still is grasped from time to time.  In fact, it happened last week in Tettegouche State Park.  Yes, a teenager holding his dad’s hand!

I’m super lucky.

I write this because I know that none of his friends will be reading this blog (I hope) and on the eve of his birthday just feel compelled to write about how special it is to have father and son time together out in nature.  Whether it’s hiking together on the trail, paddling a canoe, setting-up camp or just riding a chairlift together talking, the times we have spent together outside are precious.

When I think back to my own childhood, my fondest memories with my dad are our times shared outdoors.  As a kid, the ultimate thing that we could possibly do is take a walk to our “secret waterfall” behind the house.  It was a couple mile hike, but full of thrilling adventure as we crossed the “skunk field,” up the “Laura Ingalls Hill,” passed the ‘Indian Burial Grounds” and crossed the “Indiana Jones Bridge.”  

We ate watercress, smelled butterscotch, sang into “microphones.”  When my sister and I were really little we had “tree rides!”  If you had asked me whether I would rather go to Disneyworld or to the waterfall, I am confident I would have chosen the waterfall!

Through the years we would do things together which would mostly just be about being together in the outdoors talking.  I would love summer evenings in the boat just staring our bobbers talking about everything and nothing at the same time.  

Or going deer hunting, sitting quietly in the woods for a few hours, but the best part simply walking together looking for sign or driving around, listening to the radio just being together in the middle of nowhere.

My favorite kind of hunting when I was a kid, wasn’t hunting at all, actually.  When my dad would go bow hunting behind the house, I would tag along and sit in a nearby tree and take photos of deer.

Even if he had a chance to slay “Oaktreehead” (a name we game to a legendarily huge local deer) he still let me sit nearby, flash busting through the evening light.  

The best part of the “hunt” was walking in and out of the woods when my dad would show me fresh scrapes or rubs.  We would also find places where the deer would bed down for the night in the grass.  It always seemed like the deer’s body heat was still there - thrilling to think about as a little boy.

It’s safe to say that the time I spent in the outdoors has had a huge influence on who I am today.  I always said that if I ever had kids I would spend plenty of time out there with them as well.

And I have.

When Nick was two years old, he went on his first trip to the BWCA, a five day canoe trip.  Despite having to pack out a few pounds of dirty diapers, it was an amazingly memorable trip.  It was almost shocking on day one during a crazy lightning storm, when his mother and I were struggling to hold up the tent against the wind, Nick just slept right through it.  That was the first indication of how comfortable he would be in the wild.

Then, in 2001, I had the most memorable skiing experience of my life.  No, it wasn’t hucking myself into Corbet’s Couloir in Jackson Hole, a deep powder day at Alta or exploring the backcountry at Whistler.  The most memorable ski moment of my entire life happened at Giants Ridge.  On the bunny hill.

It was the moment when a three-year-old Nick, flying down on his tiny skis, made his very first turn.  His FIRST TURN!!!  I was not ready for the emotional surge that would come from the first time my little boy would shift his weight the right way to make a small arc.  Wow!  It was so great!  I can see it clear as day - it was to the left.  I high-fived him about a hundred times and picked him up and hugged him, his dangling skis hitting me in the thighs.  What an incredible moment!

Five years later, I would let him miss a couple days of second grade and take him to Alaska for his first trip to the big mountains.  Seeing my little boy making solid turns in the pow with the Chugach Mountains and Turnagain Arm in the background just took my breath away.  It was a trip we still talk about often - and a place he keeps asking to go back to.  Hopefully, this winter…

Now that he’s older, it’s even more fun.  Our backpacking trips have gotten longer and he has become skilled at paddling a canoe.  This summer my dad bought him a bow so another generation of hunting has come to the family.  It just keeps getting better and better.

So even though I know you probably won’t read this, happy birthday buddy!  The adventures we’ve shared over the past fourteen years have been incredible.  You’ve made me the happiest dad on the planet!

I hope you’ve had as much fun as I have.